News On Domestic Violence Issues
What Are Key Warning Signs For Potential Domestic Violence?
1. History of Abuse: The most obvious sign of the potential for abuse is if an individual has a history of abuse. If that is the case, then it is best to end the relationship before it goes any further. In most cases, a relationship starts in harmony and without abusive patterns. Domestic violence will be a process and develops over time. Someone who has a history of abuse is much more likely to resort to abuse again in the future. Past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior.
2. Verbal Threats: No matter how angry someone gets, a normal person is not going to degrade someone they really love, no matter how angry they are. If someone makes a statement about harming you physically it is because they really are capable of it. They will try to convince you otherwise, but if they are willing to say it then it’s only a matter of time before their actions will follow.
3. Belittles You: Abuse isn’t just physical, it is also verbal and emotional. In many cases emotional abuse is even more destructive then physical abuse. Someone who is abusive is going to try and make you feel worthless through derogatory comments. They are going to put you down and make you feel like you’re stupid or ignorant. They want you to feel totally dependent on them, and make you feel as if you cannot do anything on your own. Their goal is to make you desperately in need of that person for your mere survival.
4. Destructive Behavior: If the individual gets angry for minor issues or looses their temper these are considered RED FLAGS. Hitting, kicking, throwing, or breaking things are signs of destructive behavior. This is an intentional display of aggression. It’s a visual way of saying, “Be careful with me, or the next time it could be you!”
5. Jealousy: When someone displays signs of jealousy, it’s not because they care about you; it’s because they don’t trust you. Most of these people actually have something to hide themselves. Jealousy often is a sign the person is also controlling. They want to know your whereabouts at all times, who your with, who you talk to on the phone. These are all signs of insecurity. With the constant questioning and prying it’s only a matter of time before the person will try to make all your decisions for you– who you hang out with, when you can and can’t do things.
In cases of domestic abuse, the signs are there, you just have to know what to look for. Often times, a relationship won’t be abusive in the beginning, but it is a gradual process and over time it leads to physical, verbal, emotional, and/or mental abuse. If you or a loved one are charged with a domestic violence offense, you need help and support, so please contact the Law Office of Benjamin Nadig, Chtd. for a free initial consultation. Being a former prosecutor, Mr. Nadig will provide sound advice and guide you in the best course of action for effective legal defense.